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Grief, Love, and the Power of Acknowledgment: Megan Devine at the World Domination Summit
You are not helpless in the face of someone’s pain. Hearing someone’s pain and letting them have it is an amazing gift you can give. It helps. We don’t need new tools for how to get out of grief, we need to learn the skills for how to withstand it. We need to learn to bear witness. The path of bearing witness is the true path of love. Watch the video →
Coming Back to Life: Megan Devine with Jonathan Fields at the Good Life Project
The day Megan Devine’s partner died started like any other. The sun was shining as they walked to a favorite spot by the river. Matt waded in, as he’d done countless times before. Minutes later, he was gone. No warning, no time to prepare, no chance to say goodbye Megan is a psychotherapist. She trained for years to help people through moments like this. Now, being on the other side of the experience, she was faced with a daunting reality. None of it worked. And, heaped upon this realization was a mountain of judgment about “how” she grieved and what that must have said about who she “really” was. Listen to the podcast →
There is a lot that goes unsaid in grief, particularly when it comes to dating after the death of a partner. Jana talks with Megan Devine, grief thinker, speaker, and author of the audio book, When Everything is Not Okay: Practices to Help You Stay in Your Heart & Not Lose Your Mind, about what comes up when grief and dating overlap. When do you know you’re ready? How do you talk with your children? Listen to the interview →
Much of Megan’s work involves writing and journaling, which is why I invited her onto the podcast since that is our Lifestyle Practice in the Whole Life Challenge this week. I know grief isn’t an easy topic, but it’s one that holds so much value for us in that we’ve all dealt with or will have to deal with the loss of someone or something we love. Listen to the interview →
The New Model of Grief Support: Megan Devine on KCAW radio
Megan Devine, a licensed counselor and grief advocate based in Oregon, talks about a new approach to grief support – one that doesn’t seek to “fix” grief, but instead to bear witness to each others’ pain. She is joined by Erin Matthes, Therapeutic Care Manager, and Sherie Mayo, Board President at Braveheart Volunteers. Listen to the interview →
Finding Your Voice While Being of Use: Megan Devine on Jessica Williams’ Superwoman Chronicles
“In this truly honest conversation about finding your calling and building your body of work, Megan and I discuss the beauty and hardships of finding your way as a woman – especially in the helping professions. Megan has a talent for talking about hard topics like death and grief with an incredible sense of grace and ease. We get really deep on what it means to claim your voice and your space as a woman.” Please be advised there is adult language in this episode. Listen to the interview →
A conversation with authors Linda Schreyer and Megan Devine on the importance of finding your grief support tribe during times of loss and struggle. Hear the interview →
How to Help a Grieving Friend: 11 Things to do When You Don’t Know What to Do
Many people truly want to help a friend or family member who is experiencing a severe loss. While there is no one perfect way to respond or to support someone you care about, here are some good ground rules. Read the article →
“In all the times I have remembered this, I do not remember our first kiss. I remember instead the feel of his hand in the darkness. I remember his voice, once we spoke. I remember lying in his arms, a few short hours later, having hiked up the bottom of my shirt so our bellies could touch.” Read the article →
On this journey, I’ve encountered people whose grief has motivated them, instead of destroyed them. Hello, Team Modern Loss. Here are six of the many individuals who have given their grief profound expression and purpose. Read the article →
I relive our last week again and again. Every single week is a count-down. Every Monday is that Monday, the day you came home from Colorado. The day I left work to pick you up at the airport, even though you insisted you would be fine to walk, with your orange backpack and new Tevas, happy to be walking. Read the article →
Many people truly want to help a friend or family member who is experiencing a severe loss. Words often fail us at times like these, leaving us stammering for the right thing to say. Some people are so afraid to say or do the wrong thing, they choose to do nothing at all. Doing nothing at all is certainly an option, but it’s not often a good one. Read the article →
Teacher, speaker, and psychotherapist, Megan Devine, has been stirring up our culture’s ideas around grief and loss since 2009. She’s the author of the book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand, coming from Sounds True in September, 2017. (pre-order it here)
Megan is known for her practical, no-nonsense approach to grief, and for her ability to guide people inside some of the most devastating experiences of life and love. While her work is often focused on grief itself, her message is much wider: by acknowledging what hurts, we can all learn to love each other better – no matter what life brings.
About Megan Devine | refugeingrief.com
Megan Devine is the author of the forthcoming book, “It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand,” (Sounds True, 2017) and Everything is Not Okay, her original audio book. She is the creator of the popular Writing Your Grief courses, giving thousands of students an outlet for their experiences of love and loss. An engaging teacher, speaker, and licensed psychotherapist, she writes at refugeingrief.com, where the grieving find acknowledgement for the pain in their lives. An outspoken advocate for emotional intelligence and the skills we need to bear witness to the pain of the world, Megan speaks about grief and loss in unusual places – because loss (and love) happens when you aren’t looking for it.
Megan holds an MFA in Interdisciplinary Art, and a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. After the accidental death of her partner in 2009, Megan quit the counseling field and took up a brief career as a farmer and cheese-maker. While the quiet rhythm of farming suited her, she couldn’t bear the thought of newly grieving people enduring the wasteland of support she’d found when first widowed. Both of her books, It’s OK That You’re Not OK (Sounds True, 2017) and Everything is Not Okay, are love letters to people in pain, offering support and acknowledgement, rather than the dismissive cheerleading so often available.
Megan is known for her practical, no-nonsense approach to grief, and for her fierce love of her readers and students. She’s developed a loyal following from her personal essays, and is a sought after guest writer and speaker. Megan has an extraordinary ability to speak vulnerably, and an unparalleled understanding of grief’s ability to dissolve and remake whole worlds.
“Megan Devine has created the right place for people afraid that they’ll never feel right again. Her blog, her online writing groups, and her very presence through Refuge in Grief help create a safe and strong community for the grieving. She’s an indispensable advocate.” – Jessica Handler, author of Braving the Fire: A Guide to Writing About Grief & Loss.
Megan has been featured in The Huffington Post, Modern Loss, Open to Hope, The Start-Up Sessions, Whole Life Challenge, and the Manifest-Station. You can also find her on Facebook, Instagram and of course, on Twitter @refugeingrief.
Megan lives in Portland, Oregon.
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Featured interviews and articles:
Grief, Love, and the Power of Acknowledgment: Megan Devine at Chris Guillebeau’s World Domination Summit.
Coming Back to Life: An interview with Megan Devine and Jonathan Fields on the Good Life Project.
Loss as Muse: An interview with Megan Devine on Modern Loss
Tears and Tequila Talks: A conversation with Refuge in Grief founder, Megan Devine
Dear Life: How do I feel alive again after losing someone I love? Q&A on The Manifest-Station
How to Help a Grieving Friend: 11 Things to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do; on the Huffington Post
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